If you want something, go get it. Period.

you become what you believe, so believe in yourself

you become what you believe, so believe in yourself

Shout out to everybody who’s trying to get their life together. Working on yourself is the hardest part of life. The rest comes after.

Bad Morning? How Do I Get Over It?

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  1. Find a quiet space, or remove yourself from the negative space. 
  2. Practice a five minute reflection exercise. 
  3. Accept that today might not be your day. 
  4. Try to identify the source of your negative feelings. 
  5. Share your feelings with someone you trust. 
  6. Put your bad day into perspective.

R.M. Drake

You shouldn’t look for answers in people who have left you.
There are no revelations there. No guides. No fulfillment’s of any kind.
You’re not going to find a map to paradise in these people.
You’re going to find confusion and a lot more questions, perhaps even more than you can handle.
And I know people change, that is if they want to but why give in?
Why trust who has broken you before?
I mean, people live and sometimes they have the nerve to come back but that doesn’t mean you’ve got to let them back in.
You don’t have to.
You owe it to yourself to be happy.
Besides look at you now, you’re a goddam superstar and in their absence you have found more of yourself and your smile.
You’re stronger and to be honest, you don’t need to spiral around the bulls*** their universe brings.
You don’t need people who have hurt you to convince you of how beautiful you are.
You’re a flower, and you don’t drown the moment the rain starts falling down.

Is the Wind at Your Back or Are You Walking Into It

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This is something I deal with every week.  Am I helping myself or hurting myself.  Days I am depressed I am generally not doing what I need to do, to get where I want to be.  Days I am happy I do what I need to do, to be where I need to be.

The saying from Nike is priceless,”Just Do It.”  Easier said than done, but moving forward is better than staying still.  Moving forward means things can become better.  Doing nothing means things will stay the same.  Either way, those are your choices.  The world will change regardless.

Feel Depressed? Ideas to Feel Good Again

When you are down there can be many little reasons why you are depressed or many big ones or a combination of factors.  Do not overthink it.  Keep it simple. 

  1. Hunger can cause depression.  Are you eating well?
  2. Lack of exercise can cause depression.  Go outside for a walk.
  3. Water.  This is an odd one to me, but if I pound a liter of water I will feel better.  No idea why, but it works for me.
  4. Create a daily to do list
  5. Create a list of priorities, goals, and dreams and prioritize them.  This often inspires me
  6. Call a friend
  7. Post some positive things to your blog(we all have one)

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Day 3 in Japan 

Already I want to move back to Japan. I’d have no idea what I would do for a living, but the desire is still in me.

It’s Sunday, so more family time.  I enjoy family time.  The simple daily things in Japanese life are my kind of fun.

I’ve been told we are going to head to Ibaraki to go shopping and at an outlet mall.  We’re driving.  Driving in Japan is expensive, $20 round trip on the tollway for one hour of driving each way.  The nice thing is that there are these amazing rest stops along the way.  It’s not like the USA where most rest stops are disgusting, semi-scary places I want to get away from as fast as possible.  The Japanese restop consists of many different eateries, very clean, functioning restrooms, and even a very, very nice convenience store.  People will actually stop and spend some time here instead of the USA hit and go approach.  The other fund thing about traveling by car is seeing all the different styles of cars and how people decorate their cars.  In the USA people like a uniform color car, black, grey/silver, and white.  In Japan folks seem to enjoy being a little different.

fluorescent yellow toyota minivan  They like choice and more customization and are willing to pay for it.

I will not spend a lot of time on the outlet mall.  It was basically like most outlet malls in the USA.  Even many of the same stores.  The only difference is that the level of serviced in Japan is significantly better.  It seems no matter your status in life in Japan, you take pride in what you do for a living.  Plus there are affordable vending machines everywhere selling tea, not Coca-cola.

On the way home we stopped at a grocery store.  Going to grocery stores is one of my favorite pastimes in Japan.  The first thing that most Americans would find surprising is that this was a 7/Eleven holding company.  Yes the same 7/Eleven convenience store in America.  In Japan 7/eleven can be many different things: convenience store, grocery, department store, bank, and more.  This particular one was only a very large grocery in Kashiwa, Chiba.  The level of selection is amazing.  I have fun trying new things, learning how they shop, and trying new things.  Generally the food choices in Japan are significantly healthier than the USA, so I find this very, very helpful.   The last things were the Japanese recycling machines.  Getting paid to recycle.  I added a little video to check them out.  It’s shown to work in Japan and the USA.  I wonder why more communities do not do it.


The day is capped of with dinner, thank the lord I am living with 4 chefs.  We will usually chase the dinner with a little new nihonshu or beer.  Once again the selection of both is extraordinary.  Another great day in Japan.